Picture the scene: you're at a party with your friends one night. You're talking to your friends and drinking, having a GREAT time. You might even have noticed a couple of hotties whilst you were in here, but have put them to the back of your mind.
Cause right now, you're entertaining your friends. You're the center of attention, telling jokes and everybody's laughing. You've had a few to drink (perhaps three) and are perhaps feeling very mildly buzzed.
Looking up from your friends, you see a nice looking girl. This girl looks at you in 'that' way and is slyly giving you the eye.
Cool!
You excuse yourself and walk over to her, introducing yourself. You're feeling pretty cocky.
You get chatting to her. She plays with her hair, gazes at you intently and laughs far too hard at all your jokes. In short, you've got buying signals.
Everything's going great and suddenly you wind up making out with her in the back of a taxicab and you've got a 10 digit number written on the back of your hand. Perhaps you even wind up having sex.
You call her a few days later and she seems interested. Perhaps not quite as interested as she seemed before, but still into you. You arrange to meet up and everything seems to be going well. You talk, get to know each other, and maybe even make out with each other again.
One date leads to another, and before you know it, YOU'RE still interested but she isn't.
You're her intellectual whore.
You remain friends, of course, and still go out together 'as friends'. You'll start to fall for her bad. She remains aloof. Bitch, huh? Why do they always do this?
Soon, you stop caring and go back to looking at other women. She sees this and gets jumpy, right? After all, kitty cats DO compete...
You actually MEET another girl and suddenly your intellectual pimp starts fading from your memory. You forget to return her calls. You forget the name of her latest boyfriend. You might even forget about the bruises he caused her ;-)She gets pissed. Why isn't her lap dog performing tricks like he should, huh?
Suddenly, an awful sense of deja vu comes over you. You meet up accidentally, and you notice something different. Your intellectual pimp looks at you in 'that' way and is slyly giving you the eye...
This story may sound familiar. It's happened to me at least twice, and I've heard variations on it so many times I've lost count.
Whilst listening to one of these stories I decided to amuse myself by plotting a graph of hormone levels for the guy and the girl, against time.
Here's something like what I came up with...
Oddly enough, all of these stories follow this SAME, PREDICTABLE pattern. After a while I got suspicious.
Whilst it may SEEM like the girl is acting out of malice, in actual fact she's just reacting to you. We'll attempt to uncover just what happened...
Remember when you first met her? Feeling pretty cocky, huh? Well, despite what the women's lib tell you, girls DO actually feel INCREDIBLY attracted to dominant, confident men.
You were having a good time at the party that night, so naturally you felt pretty on top of things. The alcohol helped too.
You probably didn't think the girl was THAT great looking to start with, but it's funny how attractive a girl can seem when she's gagging for your cock.
Hence the increase in YOUR feelings for HER.
After a few dates, you're starting to fall for her - naturally you become just like a puppy dog which turns her off immensely. Your attraction keeps on building; hers falls.
And so on... until you meet the other girl. Suddenly you forget about girl A and stop acting like you care about her... which is, in fact, because you don't. You're over her.
Something interesting happens now - she's seeing more dominant behaviour from you. Suddenly you stop taking all the shit she's giving you (using you as an emotional tampon, for instance) because, quite frankly, you don't care.
Which brings us back to square one...
And as soon as she shows a little interest in you, you suddenly become hooked again...