Well, you fancy this chick. She's hot and single and it looks like she might be interested. All good so far, wouldn't you say?
It's not. Some other bastard - maybe a friend of yours, maybe not - is also interested. Maybe you don't even know about him, but he's there.
Time passes and you see each other occasionally. She's still showing interested.
Cut to the next scene. You're both alone. Together. Night you've been waiting for, and boy are you excited. But wait... no need to be too hasty. Just talk first. Show her that you're funny, sensitive, caring and good conversation.
You talk.
And talk. Things are going well, no? She seems to be enjoying herself.
And you talk. You might flirt; get a bit of kino in.
Before you know it, however, it's late. She's tired and wants to go to bed, and leaves you to make your own way home. You might kiss her, but perhaps she doesn't seem entirely responsive. Maybe you'll try another time.
And suddenly she won't return your calls anymore.
Between 12 and 72 hours she seems to have found herself a boyfriend.
He might not be that good looking, but she seems to find him attractive.
Six months later, they're still together.
True story. Happened to me twice. Third time it happened I successfully predicted it and avoided what would have inevitably have happened.
When you were together she was thinking/feeling about having sex. You were flirting for some time and then you leave her unsatisfied. Even if she doesn't WANT to get with you, i.e. she is whoring you, then what you have done will still make her think about sex. Perhaps she rejected you or didn't try, but the thought - the process of meta-stating sex was still going through her mind. Chemicals were flowing.
And this creates a need.
This creation of a need to get some kind of action will naturally lead her to more readily accept the advances or even to PROVOKE advances of males with whom there was a greater ladder disparity.
Your first reaction to the story might be 'yeah, it looked like that might happen'. However, I can't stress enough how obvious this ISN'T when you're actually there doing this. The clock is ticking, but it's invisible to you. The temptation to think that you've got all the time in the world is as seductive as she is.
Strike the iron while the fire is hot. Hit that shit. It's a lower risk to get rejected than to KNOW afterward that she was yours for the taking and that she's off the market now.
Edit: thanks to Zeus for this one - if you can see this happenening then try and be the boyfriend. Your temporary increase on her ladder (along with every other male on the planet) might be just what you need to get a piece of that fine ass. Hell, you could probably use this Machiavellian tactic as your schtick.
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